Being in a relationship with anyone seems to be so complicated. Any relationship seems to be so challenging these days. Staying in touch, feeling connected, feeling a sense of belongingness, being cared for, and being able to trust just seems so illusive these days...
I know I may be sounding like a cynic...but trust me these are the things I hear these days. It's as though the ability to be in a relationship with another person is getting continuously compromised in some form or the other. Whether it is trying to maintain a friendship or being with your boyfriend/girlfriend or your spouse, things seem to have gotten so complicated.
I wonder why...
And the answer I feel lies in the shape that our social worlds are taking. What I mean is I feel we are not able to get the kind of time we want to spend with the people we care about and at the same time it is breeding a sense of insecurity within us as to what the other person may do or who they may end up being with and all of this tends to make things yet again complicated...complex!!!
It appears to me more and more that we trust lesser and disbelieve far more than we can afford to and in the process end up compromising the quality of quite a few cherished relationships. And the sad part of all of this is that we don't even realize when all this is happening. It only strikes us when relationships go sour and lose their vitality that may be things went wrong somewhere. And then...it can frequently be too late.
So the solution is spend more time...do what you think is needed to nurture your relationships...yet do give space and don't end up making life suffocating for those who are with you. Relationships are not that tough...they do not need to be so complex and complicated...and even if they are then you need to ensure that you have quite a few good solid relationships that insulate you and ensure that when rough patches intersect the trajectory of your life you are able to transcend those difficult times.
I know I may be sounding like a cynic...but trust me these are the things I hear these days. It's as though the ability to be in a relationship with another person is getting continuously compromised in some form or the other. Whether it is trying to maintain a friendship or being with your boyfriend/girlfriend or your spouse, things seem to have gotten so complicated.
I wonder why...
And the answer I feel lies in the shape that our social worlds are taking. What I mean is I feel we are not able to get the kind of time we want to spend with the people we care about and at the same time it is breeding a sense of insecurity within us as to what the other person may do or who they may end up being with and all of this tends to make things yet again complicated...complex!!!
It appears to me more and more that we trust lesser and disbelieve far more than we can afford to and in the process end up compromising the quality of quite a few cherished relationships. And the sad part of all of this is that we don't even realize when all this is happening. It only strikes us when relationships go sour and lose their vitality that may be things went wrong somewhere. And then...it can frequently be too late.
So the solution is spend more time...do what you think is needed to nurture your relationships...yet do give space and don't end up making life suffocating for those who are with you. Relationships are not that tough...they do not need to be so complex and complicated...and even if they are then you need to ensure that you have quite a few good solid relationships that insulate you and ensure that when rough patches intersect the trajectory of your life you are able to transcend those difficult times.
